On disappointment and viewing people as fungible
Dealing with interpersonal disappointment, it seems very natural to respond by commoditizing the disappointing person, by trying to regard them as interchangeable and thereby replaceable. E.g. that there are other fish in the sea. Fish are fungible. People we don't know are, to us, fungible. But people we do know aren't; they are unique, special, have unique and special relations to us. So there is a kind of violence, here, a transformation of someone special to someone fungible by (in the mind) destroying what makes them unique.
To cope with disappointment I would I suppose make this cognitive move, which I do not relish. I guess a distinction can be made. That there will be others does not imply that the others are in all ways interchangeable, only that they are [...].